EXACTLY, you made a point - you said everyone is different. So why are you saying "ohh when they are intoxicated then when you have sex with them, it is rape" - you can't determine that objectively.
Because:
1. It is the law.
2. YOU should be responsible enough to be able to determine it, and if she says later that she can't remember ANY part of the night leading to or after the sex act(s) that means she was intoxicated, which makes it rape. Pretty much it's her words against yours and people would be more likely to believe the victim.
So really, if I take a girl home with me and she had a bit of alcohol - how the hell am I supposed to know, if I have sex with her, if she's 'intoxicated' or not? Especially if I'll be under the influence a bit as well? Obviously there are extremes which are obvious - but what if it's in that grey area in the middle? You can't legit, 100% objectively say if it's rape or not. They're matters for the jury.
Showing the signs of being intoxicated:
- Slurred speech
- Stumbling
- Slowed reaction time
Again, this is COMMON SENSE
IF YOU'RE INTOXICATED AS WELL THEN IT IS MUTUAL RAPE (writing this is capitals because you obviously didn't read it BEFORE)
If their intoxication is enough to say they are in a "grey area" then they are too intoxicated for you to have sex with. Fuck.
So in essence, since we can very easily debate and solve the extremes - it's the grey area in the middle which is difficult. Plus as I said before, drunk or not, consent given the night before or not, anyone can wake up the next morning and call 'rape'.
If there is enough confusion to say "hey, this may be a grey area" then you should be responsible enough to weigh out the consequences and make a decision on how to act. i.e. DON'T HAVE SEX WITH THEM.
If you are hungry and see a berry in the forest that you're pretty sure is poisonous because you've seen something like it on a tv show do you eat it because you're unsure or do you leave it and get something safe to eat?
And wow, personal attacks. ooh harsh words. i'm so offended.
You're the one talking about resorting to rape/sexual assault to "get with" a girl.