ShadowLighte
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There's a guy I know who at first was really nice (or at least maybe that's just what I thought because some people thought he was already an asshole) and we had a good relationship but that's usually the way every good friendship starts. We got close and he started getting physically affectionate like touching me a lot, playing with my hair and holding my hand etc. and obviously it looked like he liked me but when people asked if we were dating he would say that we weren't, we were simply close friends. Sure, he may have simply said that because he didn't want to confess his feelings or anything like that but later on told me that when he was young he was exposed to a lot of skinship and so that's how or why he's like that to people and it doesn't mean that he likes them any more than a friend.
After a while we kinda distanced and he started to poke me and whatnot because I'm super ticklish and it entertained him somehow. I got annoyed after a while because it isn't necessarily a pleasant feeling, especially when you're not in the mood to play around. After that period which is now, I realised that he's acting weird. He does things to catch my attention and I guess because I'm used to the poking and all that, he's using other ways which are stupid if that was the reason but I'm not sure. Things such as pushing my desk into my torso for no apparent reason, scrunching up pieces of paper and throwing them at me, wiping the water vapour from his drink on my clothes, not letting me put my head down and rest on my arms or anything because he'd throw things at me like his folder etc. (all these things were not in a playful manner, might I add). But then afterwards he's fine, like he'll talk to me about things and make me laugh and stuff afterwards which makes me feel really conflicted because it doesn't really make sense. He isn't all that nice but he isn't a total asshole all the time. When I do think about the negatives though, he's actually being quite disrespectful and rude.
Am I walking into what could turn out to be an abusive relationship in the future?
That aside, what do you think of the general question?
After a while we kinda distanced and he started to poke me and whatnot because I'm super ticklish and it entertained him somehow. I got annoyed after a while because it isn't necessarily a pleasant feeling, especially when you're not in the mood to play around. After that period which is now, I realised that he's acting weird. He does things to catch my attention and I guess because I'm used to the poking and all that, he's using other ways which are stupid if that was the reason but I'm not sure. Things such as pushing my desk into my torso for no apparent reason, scrunching up pieces of paper and throwing them at me, wiping the water vapour from his drink on my clothes, not letting me put my head down and rest on my arms or anything because he'd throw things at me like his folder etc. (all these things were not in a playful manner, might I add). But then afterwards he's fine, like he'll talk to me about things and make me laugh and stuff afterwards which makes me feel really conflicted because it doesn't really make sense. He isn't all that nice but he isn't a total asshole all the time. When I do think about the negatives though, he's actually being quite disrespectful and rude.
Am I walking into what could turn out to be an abusive relationship in the future?
That aside, what do you think of the general question?
