why the fuck is every conversation about relationships and the actions you take in them online judged on the basis of what you gain from it? you shouldnt be constantly doing cost/benefit analysis's on what you do for others. why do people online have such an individualistic mindset while expecting a collectivist society that benefits them?
my dad has put a ton of effort into raising me, because he loves me. my dad doesnt care about if ill give him a son or if ill bring pride to my family name, he wants to provide the best life possible for me because he loves ME, not because he wants to gain something. my dad makes sacrifices for me, without expecting anything in return just for the chance i have a better life. you shouldnt be having children if youre having them for utility value and you view it as a transaction. being a parent is an inherently sacrificial role, it truely is something you do for the sake of love.