HellVeN said:
Breaking I wasn't joking one bit. I'm serious when I say that I think it is over-rated.
Stories like this often come up on TV:
. Girl gets raped in park at night
. Girl kills herself
Now don't tell me you don't think that's ridiculous. I can think of a million things worst than rape. And that is my whole point here. I'd much rather be raped than endure years of physical pain.
there are just some people that have different values to you. I could not handle being raped, and I
consider myself emotionally strong too. I mean, rape is usually violent, it demeans you and what you are, as well as the fact that instict tells you not to trust men, or sex ever again. It sounds like a whinge, but when you are violated, and the physicality of it (ie the penis inside you) is INCREDIBLy intruding (in more ways than one
) If you were a virgin, and a girl, and you were fighting him off, this shit is incredibly fucked up, because not only does it HURT the first time, cuz they're forcing her hymen to break, but because they're usually pinning her down, doing everything they can to stop her from struggling. Although you've seemed to have dismissed this point, so I'll carry on
HellVen said:
Also I don't buy into all that emotional trauma after being raped bs. People like that annoy me. Why think of it as more than just unwanted sex? It's ridiculous.
Were they ever ready for it? Virgin or not, sex hurts when its unwanted. (cuz you're dry and it RIPS into you) A lot of women I hear that get raped get some sort of medical condition where they tighten up whenever they engage in anything sexual, and they get anxiety attacks, even if the sex was wanted - purely NOT because it was psychological,
but because the body REMEMBERS the pain and it becomes INSTINCT to tighten up, and panic. If you want, I'll have a search for that condition and what its name is...
But you tell me would you like it if from now on that you have sex, you have anxiety attacks and you penis shrivels up into massive pain spasms just because your body remembers "unwanted sex"
And not only this, but because she's dry/virgin, you're likely to damage her. Might make her infertile from then on. I think it's wrong to take anyone's ability to have children without consent.
HellVen said:
Think of it this way. If someone put all their belongings out in the front garden and left for a week. When they come back most of their things would have been stolen. They were asking for it. In a perfect world none of their belongings would have been stolen but there is no such thing as a perfect world. If the girl puts herself in a dangerous position I don't see why we should feel sorry, she was an idiot in the fist place for putting herself in danger.
Not all girls put themselves in a dangerous situation. But what I had said but decided not to post it up... a girl that seeks attention, gets drunk and leaves nothing to the imagination obviously is fucked up in the head. You don't go and fuck her up even more. Call her a skank for all you care. Let her grow up properly. Leave her alone.
There's the maturity where you condemn those who are less mature than you, and there is the other maturity where you let others catch up to a "mature" mentality.
I didn't mean to sound like I was giving you a lecture, but I just want you to know that rape isn't just unwanted sex. I refrained from talking about the emotional trauma, cuz you already dismissed that, but there ARE medical problems too.