I recieved this post just a short while ago on myspace called "Things I would do for my girl any day", and while I was reading through it, I encounterd a few things I know I shouldnt and wouldnt do to any girl...
What I Do Not Agree With.
"- Give her a hoodie of yours to wear so other ppl kno she is urs"
"- when your friends walk by say this is my girlfriend"
If I give a girl a hoodie, its because she will be cold. I dont think its right for a man to claim ownership over a girl untill marriage, even then its not a one sided ownership. Its a mutual union. She owns the guy too.
"- Grab her by the waist"
"- Tickle her even when she says stop"
Let me ask you guys, when your doing these to a girl, what is really on your mind? Be honest. You know its more what you want to admit. Your thinking of sex. No joke. Guys think of sex.
Tickling is really just forplay before sex. If you want to keep your relationship pure, then you should stay away from things like this.
Its like if you want to stay on top of a snow covered hill, you dont jump up and down on a sled. Its just stupid.
"- tell her shes beautiful not sexy"
"- Leave her sweet texts to wake up to"
"- tell her she has amazing eyes"
"- Say i love you to her face not JUST over the phone"
Whats wrong with these Justin!? Oh. Thanks for asking.
When a guy says he loves a girl, he can just as easly turn around and say Oh, I love football, or Oh, I love ice cream. Saying it with as mutch truth as he said to the girl.
So, the guy is just saying Oh, I like you. But, what most girls do when they hear this is they are (girls, be honest with yourself) lieing to themselvs. They add on to what you say, so they can hear what they want to hear. Often girls will hear "Oh, I Love You with all my heart. And I would want to spend the rest of my life with you." When in all honesty, the guy is just saying he likes you. He probably doesnt like you that mutch yet. When he does, guess what girls... You will know. He will offer you a ring. Its that simple. But untill then, to say "I love you" or even anything that strongly suggests that is LIEING to her. Decieving her, and there is a good chance you know it too. So why do it? To make her feel like you will spend the rest of your life with her. Its easyer for you to get in bed with her. You may not be thinking about that at the time... but in the back of your mind...
"- tell her your secrets."
No. This creates a strong emotional bond with the girl. Why is this bad you ask? Because its a proven fact, 9 out of 10 relatinships fail. You may belive otherwise, but yours is NO EXCEPTION. If that relationship fails, that emotional bond will be torn like a strip of toilet paper, and it will hurt a lot more inside. When you share secrets, you are harming both the girl, and yourself.
Not only that, but when you break up, your deepest secrets are now in the hands of a new enimy. Someone who can use them to make your life worst, and destroy you.
"- Sneak up behind her"
Oh. Way to get her to trust you.