How to NOT pick up...:/ (1 Viewer)

[Carnivour]

ok, ive just moved to sydney a couple of days ago for a month or so before i leave to travel.
i went shopping today in pitt st mall and there was this gorgeous singer/busker - the best i had ever heard in my life (did anyone on here see him? i want his name badly so i can look out for him in the future), so i sat down for maybe 20 mins on one of those pole thingies listening to him while drinking a Boost.
i then got up and walked down pitt st mall going into a fair few shops on the way and then kept going down george to martin place where i always have lunch. (keep in mind, this was a fair walk and took maybe 25 mins)

anyway, (this is where my actual story kicks in) as i was waiting at the lights, this strange guy who i had never in my life seen walked up to me. He was pretty attractive (although nothing too spectacular), tanned, really good body...and really OLD (ok, im thinking like 28). I didnt even see him come up to me until he says:



Him: "Hi...this is a bit strange....but ahhh...hmmm...ahhh...are you single?"

Me:

Him: "I saw you in Pitt St listening to the musician..and just had to ask"

Me:

Him: "I dont normally do this kind of thing, but I knew this would be my only chance" (im serious, he was actually saying this stuff to me)

Me: DID YOU FOLLOW ME????

Him: "ahhh...hmmmm...yeah....."
Me: *holy shit holy shit holy shit*

Him: "Lets have a drink"

Me: .....

Him: "ok um....this is really hard for me, so, can I have your number?"

Me: "ahhh i gotta run. See ya!"



Ok, so moral of the story...he seemed pretty nice, obviously confident, good-looking, ie there was nothing superficially wrong with him. So, in practically ANY other situation I would have seriously considered him. NOT when I was stalked that way or then bounced upon like that in the street. I remember a couple of threads in this forum where guys asked if they should ask girls out just after seeing them. My answer is NO. For the next couple of hours I was so scared I went and sat in the toilets, then walked around some blocks, always looking around to see if he was following me again. Although on one level I felt very flattered, at the same time it just felt wrong.

How would other girls in my situation have reacted? would you have taken an opportunity to actually get to know him? (note: the last thing i want atm is a boyfriend.) but just curious if other girls would have run away like i did.

 

[zeek]

ghey

 

[sunjet]

Haha, how old do you look? Just tell him your married or seeing someone then walk away, should of asked him for lunch or something though

 

[Carnivour]

well, im 17 but i can easily pass for 19. but he looked way older than that. in hindsight, i obviously should have said i was seeing someone, i was just shell-shocked at the time.
im fairly outgoing and confident, but i would never in my wildest dreams walk up to someone in the street like that. its just not on. :/

 

[alli_88]

Depends just how hot this guy is! nah, i guess it would depend on what kind of mood im in as to how id react, like if i was havin a shit of a day he'd probably seem like any other guy tryin 2 pick me up. But if in a good mood id probably be heaps flattered, maybe a li'l speechless but I rekon it's really sweet and gutsy of him. Obviously u stood out 2 him and Sydney'z a big place so Im thinkin he probably thought he wouldnt get the chance again and he must have just been so intrigued by u that he took that chance...If we were watchin it in a movie we'd go "awww" but i guess it's probably a li'l different in the real-life situation.

 

[Skeeta]

haha if you think thats bad, i know someone who saw someone hot whilst driving, so they followed them home and left a letter in their mailbox with phone number etc in it

they actually went out for a while... but its very stalker-like

 

[azzie]

you should have just laughed and gone "oh im flattered but im a lesbian"
easy let down.

 

[thejosiekiller]

stalking = bad

therefore

me =

 

[alli_88]

can i ask how many guys have tried to pick you up?

lol...like i count? i was speaking in general newayz

 

[Baiku]

Nah see...the thing is you're wrong.

It's not "How to NOT pick up" it's "How to not meet people".

What's wrong with a guy coming up to you and saying he'd want to call you sometime. You have an option, to either give him your number, or blow him off, but it's nothing to be "afriad" of, and there's nothing wrong with it.

He's probably a nice guy, as far as you could tell apparently he was alright, so why wouldn't you give him a chance? Were you too busy hiding in the toilets?

I think people on here need to get out and socialise a bit more. If someone comes up to me and says "Hi, my name is xxx, blahblah", I'd tell them my name and see what they had to say. Unless you're busy, why wouldn't you.

That's how you meet new people, make new friends that are a bit different to the group you apparently hang around with and refuse to go outside.

He probably wouldn't want to go out with a 17 year old anyway, but if it was a 22 year old that did want to go out with you, what then? You're going to deny a guy your company just because they saw you listening to some music, instead of at a party or at uni or something?

The other thing is, unless you're a bangin hot model, I doubt people come up to you all the time and stalk you or something, so surely you can deal with the occasional confrontation with a friendly stranger?

haha if you think thats bad, i know someone who saw someone hot whilst driving, so they followed them home and left a letter in their mailbox with phone number etc in it

they actually went out for a while... but its very stalker-like

But why is it stalker like? For all a guy knows, the girl thought they were cute too. If the girl says she's not interested, or blows a guy off in any way, then fine, it'd be stalking to follow them somewhere. But there's nothing wrong with chasing after someone who you think is worth the effort. I've met people I really liked and forgot to work out how to contact them, surely we all have? If I had an option of running after a girl or not, I would. I think you girls should just be flattered that a guy is interested enough to make an effort for you, rather than get all paranoid about something that really doesn't harm you in any way whatsoever?

That's the end of my little rant...

 

[Skeeta]

theres a difference between a guy/anyone who sits next to you and starts chatting, while u r watching the busker

and the guy who follows you for 25 minutes after seeing the busker

 

[Carnivour]

Nah see...the thing is you're wrong.

It's not "How to NOT pick up" it's "How to not meet people".

What's wrong with a guy coming up to you and saying he'd want to call you sometime. You have an option, to either give him your number, or blow him off, but it's nothing to be "afriad" of, and there's nothing wrong with it.

He's probably a nice guy, as far as you could tell apparently he was alright, so why wouldn't you give him a chance? Were you too busy hiding in the toilets?

I think people on here need to get out and socialise a bit more. If someone comes up to me and says "Hi, my name is xxx, blahblah", I'd tell them my name and see what they had to say. Unless you're busy, why wouldn't you.

That's how you meet new people, make new friends that are a bit different to the group you apparently hang around with and refuse to go outside.

He probably wouldn't want to go out with a 17 year old anyway, but if it was a 22 year old that did want to go out with you, what then? You're going to deny a guy your company just because they saw you listening to some music, instead of at a party or at uni or something?

The other thing is, unless you're a bangin hot model, I doubt people come up to you all the time and stalk you or something, so surely you can deal with the occasional confrontation with a friendly stranger?

That's the end of my little rant...

hi. first of all, i think he's a rare breed of a guy, i personally dont know any guy who would do that. i dont mind that he came up to me, thumbs up to him for that, but my point was more along the lines of me being a bit disturbed by the fact that he followed me, while i went into shops, etc. i might be wrong here, but that feels very stalkerish to me.
2ndly, ur right, this kind of thing hasnt ever happened to me, thats why i was so...uptight...i guess about it. hence why i was also asking for other girls' opinions/experiences. normally i meet guys through other friends, at some kind of social gathering, etc and im a very uninhibited, outgoing girl, but i personally feel creepy about someone just coming up and asking for my number. dont get me wrong, im very very flattered, but...eh i dunno.

azzie: yeah, i thought of that after.

 

[Carnivour]

theres a difference between a guy/anyone who sits next to you and starts chatting, while u r watching the busker

and the guy who follows you for 25 minutes after seeing the busker

yeah, bingo.

 

[The_highwayman]

On a less related note,

Did u give money to this amazing busker?

 

[Ranger Stacie]

i think its kind of sweet, it sound like a scene that would be in a movie though. but then, following for nearly half an hour is a bit weird. he should have said hi to you while you were listening to the busker

 

[7th Sign]

doolie for sure...

sif a 30 yaer old would try and pic up a 17 year old lol

 

[niteshade1312]

Come to think of it, every outgoing guy that has approached me, seems to freak me out. Which I find fairly bizarre because I'm the type of girl that will approach bunches of people and introduce myself.

Maybe it's just the type of guy that approaches me that freaks me out.. oh well!

I think it was great of him to approach you, just he should have done it a tad earlier that's all.

 

[Bookie]

at least he didnt make a move on teh intarwebs

 

[Carnivour]

On a less related note,

Did u give money to this amazing busker?

yeah i did! i dont do it very frequently, only when they do something for the money, like play guitar and sing amazingly like this guy was doing...i also never realised how many homeless buskers are around the cbd with their little signs.

doolie for sure...

sif a 30 yaer old would try and pic up a 17 year old lol

i dont look 17. but neither do i look in my 20s. but still yeah, im also quite puzzled by that, hence another reason why i didnt feel comfortable with it

 

[bernz]

Something like that happened to me once... Except it wasn't like being followed around for ages...

I was just sitting at the train station and there was this guy sitting a few metres away from me and I noticed that he was kind of watching me... And it felt kind of uncomfortable... But he came up to me and said hi and introduced himself... But when he asked for my number, since I didn't know him, I decided to just give him my Email.

I ended up going out with him for a little while after chatting over the net for about 5 months beforehand... I was really sus of him... It didn't work out great.

Moral: randoms are weird.