Relationships & HSC (3 Viewers)
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santaslayer
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Is education going to dictate your life forever? If so then you're pretty screwed. You don't have time for a girl because you have an education to compete. Conservatively, you won't finish your education until you're like 22. So OK, 22 sounds like a good age to get yourself in a relationship. Oh shit, you now need to work your arse off so you can climb the corporate ladder. You spend more time at the office then at home. Fuck this, I'll wait till my career is steady before I go and find a girl....OK, so now I'm the CEO of some fucking big arse company, I'm 55 now, I won't bother, I'll just go buy a girl from Europe/Asia.....oh shit...Viagra is my best buddy.
I had that dream once...wierd...
I had that dream once...wierd...
pinkblinkbarbie
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i think that if you are in a relationship while still at school (especially during the HSC), your partner needs to respect your dceision on study etc.
i was with my boyfriend since about halfway through year 12, he had finished school the year before, and encouraged me to study. if i said that i couldnt see him over the weekend because i wanted to study, he said thats cool, because he wanted me to do the best.
a relationship during school will work if its like that. but if you are in a relationship where you need to spend every minute with that person, then how will you have time for study/homework?
you have to know when to say no to seeing each other etc. and give yourself time to focus on school
i was with my boyfriend since about halfway through year 12, he had finished school the year before, and encouraged me to study. if i said that i couldnt see him over the weekend because i wanted to study, he said thats cool, because he wanted me to do the best.
a relationship during school will work if its like that. but if you are in a relationship where you need to spend every minute with that person, then how will you have time for study/homework?
you have to know when to say no to seeing each other etc. and give yourself time to focus on school
pretty pink
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why break up for the HSC...
thats just dumb...i mean yeah ya need concentration but gees no need ta break up over it... how weak can ya be
thats just dumb...i mean yeah ya need concentration but gees no need ta break up over it... how weak can ya be
Riddles
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man, i've been single for over a yr now, but if i had a girlfriend, i wouldn't break up with her because of exams. we could help ecah other with our similar subjects, and biology as well 
abBi17
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Is the HSC straining your Relationship?
I'm thinking about breaking it off w/ my bf or at least putting things on hold until Hsc is over. I'm just finding that my priorities are towards getting the best results and my bf is distracting my studies (since he's older) and I'm finding it difficult in squeezing him into everything that going on.
I've confronted him about the issue but he's annoyingly persistant in wanting late night phone calls (time better spent studying) and wanting to go out. I like the guy but I'm worried that he wouldn't want to wait for me when HSC is complete.
I'm just wondering has anyone's relationship survived the long HSC period? (and I mean no late night phone calls or seeing their partner until exams were over. I truely believe this is the only way to fully focus on getting the best results.)
I'm thinking about breaking it off w/ my bf or at least putting things on hold until Hsc is over. I'm just finding that my priorities are towards getting the best results and my bf is distracting my studies (since he's older) and I'm finding it difficult in squeezing him into everything that going on.
I've confronted him about the issue but he's annoyingly persistant in wanting late night phone calls (time better spent studying) and wanting to go out. I like the guy but I'm worried that he wouldn't want to wait for me when HSC is complete.
I'm just wondering has anyone's relationship survived the long HSC period? (and I mean no late night phone calls or seeing their partner until exams were over. I truely believe this is the only way to fully focus on getting the best results.)
Lhyviathan
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I have somewhat regular (a couple of emails and short phone calls a week) contact with my missus. It's what keeps my sanity intact.
ariande
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I have a boyfriend and there is no way that we are breaking up over these next few weeks. It just isn't going to happen. It does help that he isn't also doing the HSC and there isn't an issue about me spending too much time with him because he lives 6 hours away from me, so I do have time to concentrate... I would never ever break up with someone just because I had to focus, I would just explain that to them and hopefully they would understand.
pol_pop
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I'm doing my hsc this year and i've had 5 boyfriends (not a hoe i promise!) but the last one i am so in love with. we were really serious and everything was so perfect. he's just starting yr 12 now (long story) and on sunday night he broke up with me because he wants to concentrate on his school work and wants over 90 uai. i tried to tell him that u can have both but it seems he doesn't realise that and now he will probably realise it too late.
Believe me you can do both. Your relationships are the most important things in your life. They are what make you happy whether they're family, friends or partners. Don't sacrifice ur happiness for the hsc, it's not as bad as u think it is!
And sacrificing ur relationships does not make the hsc easier. I havent been able to study since we broke up because i cant get him out of my mind and i'm never hungry. i eat like half a meal a day because i feel sick with more food. Don't let this happen to you.
Believe me you can do both. Your relationships are the most important things in your life. They are what make you happy whether they're family, friends or partners. Don't sacrifice ur happiness for the hsc, it's not as bad as u think it is!
And sacrificing ur relationships does not make the hsc easier. I havent been able to study since we broke up because i cant get him out of my mind and i'm never hungry. i eat like half a meal a day because i feel sick with more food. Don't let this happen to you.
Riona
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Well I'm still my boyfriend now and I have no intention of breaking up with him to concentrate on my HSC. He makes me so happy and I couldn't stand going through this without him. In my preliminary course I wasn't doing that well about 3/4ths of the way through and this was partially because I was so distracted by him. Anyway, for the HSC I want to put my main focus on that rather than him and hopefully I won't stuff up eh?
Riona
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My gosh what a very tricky question we have here! I haven't read every other response (only cos there was sooo many) so I do apologise if what I am saying has already been said... or rather what I am typing has been typed previously
Well my boyfriend and I have been together about a year and it has been long-distance. Practically the whole relationship has been over the phone (we've only spent about 3 months together in the same postcode) and the sailing couldn't be smoother! We have different opinions, but we respect that and fighting just doesn't happen. UNTIIIIILLLLL the big bad HSC reared its ugly head - then we had problems!
When we began to fight (mainly becos i was so stressed all the time) everything around me seemed to be fading to a yukky grey colour. Everything seemed depressing. Going for a walk was depressing because I would just HAVE to take my ipod and BAMMM! i'd be listening to 1000 songs that reminded me of 'the good times' - sigh.
Talking to friends was even depressing!
They'd ask me how things were -
I'd have to explain how things weren't -
They'd become sympathetic and blurt out all those 'plenty of fish in the sea' cliches-
I'd cry -
They'd say it's ok -
I'd say 'yeah i know' to shut them up because I knew if i screamed "NO ITS NOT HOW THE F@#K WOULD YOU KNOW???" there'd be a rather awkward moment pending and the friendship could possibly be strained.
So you could say things were VERY BAD.
BUT -
having said that, I think the WORSE thing you can do is breakup with someone purely for the course of the HSC.
All you can do is think about what they might be thinking, trust me its 100 times worse when you suddenly lose their support and reassurance. You begin to wonder,
Are they enjoying the time away from me?
Will they want to continue the relationship after the exams finish??
What about that huuuuge 12 day gap in between my 4th and 5th exams? What if im feeling a bit lonely or randy?? Can I still see them?
fehjkfeshjfes ok i've babbled on quite profusely here. In conclusion I'll simply say this. Everybody is different and every relationship is different. You can not forsee how you will feel no matter what you do - if you end it for the HSC or not. You might be able to handle the time away from them or you might not. It could give you a chance to focus purely on study, or it could leave you distracted, depressed and thinking about them 24/7 (that's me!)
I couldn't handle it and we took time apart then came back together and sorted it out.
More power to you if you can drop them for the HSC and roar through your exams! Good luck everyone
Well my boyfriend and I have been together about a year and it has been long-distance. Practically the whole relationship has been over the phone (we've only spent about 3 months together in the same postcode) and the sailing couldn't be smoother! We have different opinions, but we respect that and fighting just doesn't happen. UNTIIIIILLLLL the big bad HSC reared its ugly head - then we had problems!
When we began to fight (mainly becos i was so stressed all the time) everything around me seemed to be fading to a yukky grey colour. Everything seemed depressing. Going for a walk was depressing because I would just HAVE to take my ipod and BAMMM! i'd be listening to 1000 songs that reminded me of 'the good times' - sigh.
Talking to friends was even depressing!
They'd ask me how things were -
I'd have to explain how things weren't -
They'd become sympathetic and blurt out all those 'plenty of fish in the sea' cliches-
I'd cry -
They'd say it's ok -
I'd say 'yeah i know' to shut them up because I knew if i screamed "NO ITS NOT HOW THE F@#K WOULD YOU KNOW???" there'd be a rather awkward moment pending and the friendship could possibly be strained.
So you could say things were VERY BAD.
BUT -
having said that, I think the WORSE thing you can do is breakup with someone purely for the course of the HSC.
All you can do is think about what they might be thinking, trust me its 100 times worse when you suddenly lose their support and reassurance. You begin to wonder,
Are they enjoying the time away from me?
Will they want to continue the relationship after the exams finish??
What about that huuuuge 12 day gap in between my 4th and 5th exams? What if im feeling a bit lonely or randy?? Can I still see them?
fehjkfeshjfes ok i've babbled on quite profusely here. In conclusion I'll simply say this. Everybody is different and every relationship is different. You can not forsee how you will feel no matter what you do - if you end it for the HSC or not. You might be able to handle the time away from them or you might not. It could give you a chance to focus purely on study, or it could leave you distracted, depressed and thinking about them 24/7 (that's me!)
I couldn't handle it and we took time apart then came back together and sorted it out.
More power to you if you can drop them for the HSC and roar through your exams! Good luck everyone
I just recently got together with someone and yeah, there's no way I'm letting him go. I'm aware that these next coming weeks are critical to my future education, but I personally think that being with him helps me focus as the relationship makes me happy. And the great thing is that he understands and encourages me to study, so in that regards he serves as a source of motivation. =)
I haven't been with anyone for over two years and this one person makes life more fulfilling for me. hehe So in reponse to the original question, no, I wouldn't break up with my bf. If he's not a distraction then there's no need. =)
I haven't been with anyone for over two years and this one person makes life more fulfilling for me. hehe So in reponse to the original question, no, I wouldn't break up with my bf. If he's not a distraction then there's no need. =)
KeypadSDM
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Yes and no.
For me it was extremely helpful knowing I didn't have "the woman" at me when what I need to do is study.
Conversely, having a girlfriend in year 12 whilst I was in first year uni helped give her focus, and something to aim for (breaking my UAI) which she accomplished [the bitch], and apparently I was someone she could turn to when she felt lost.
For me it was extremely helpful knowing I didn't have "the woman" at me when what I need to do is study.
Conversely, having a girlfriend in year 12 whilst I was in first year uni helped give her focus, and something to aim for (breaking my UAI) which she accomplished [the bitch], and apparently I was someone she could turn to when she felt lost.
SazzaPhoenix
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Huh?
I don't understand why you would break up with someone just because of the HSC - Can someone fill me in?
I mean, you're stressed out anyway because of the workload, and your parents nagging, and your teachers nagging, and your best friend telling you that now she's into 10 hours studying a day ... you need someone to talk to and keep you going - if you already have that someone why would you let it go?
I'd just started a relationship, like, a week or two before exams - it doesn't effect my study at all... I don't understand it at all...
I don't understand why you would break up with someone just because of the HSC - Can someone fill me in?
I mean, you're stressed out anyway because of the workload, and your parents nagging, and your teachers nagging, and your best friend telling you that now she's into 10 hours studying a day ... you need someone to talk to and keep you going - if you already have that someone why would you let it go?
I'd just started a relationship, like, a week or two before exams - it doesn't effect my study at all... I don't understand it at all...