okay, what you have to consider, is... what a 15/16 or even 18 year old THINKS they want... is very often something they will look back on and cringe in their more adult years. when i was 13/14 i thought it was all good that my boyfriend was 18/19 (for the record, i lied about my age until about a year into the relationship, so you can't really blame him) blah blah because although i was young i was oh-so mature and we really had a connection blah blah fucking blah. now, even 3 years later, i realise how stupid i was, how not ready for a relationship of that calibre, specifically with someone with that much more life experience than me. even up until february of this yr i was going out with someone 5 years older, and it's only in hindsight that i realise how much more comfortable and relaxed i am now that i can act my age, not having to constantly worry that he or his friends see me as immature. there are choices, yes, and while as a teenager you're capable of making these choices to a certain extent, more likely than not, you will look back on these choices in even 5 years time and say "what the fuck was i thinking". and that's truly what i believe will happen with any 16-18 y/o "in love" with a 55 y/o.Originally posted by olay
i was actually talking about the shift in ages we're looking at. though yeah eww 15/18 n 55. but still, its their bloody choice. laws shouldn't be able to stipulate who can have relationships with whom, if both are willing to develop sthg.
yeah, i know... but whats wrong with what they have, considering they're both willing, and it doesn't put anyone in danger???
lolita complex?Originally posted by snapperhead
Imagine it from the "teachers" if this was to happen.....
(other than the legal and ethical ramifications) You couldnt hang out with either sets of friends and your life is basically stuffed till the day you die as you would be labelled a 'pedo'
(and dont even get me started on the emotional issues of a grown man being sexually attracted (and acting on these impulses) to a teenager)
yeah, but then it can be argued that the law is a stunting factor to growth. i think that whole thing is a part of growing up. i mean when i was 13 i went out with someone that was 17. in hindsight i felt it was gross - i mean, seeing i'm his age now, i think "whoa wrong" when i think about ppl in my yr going out with someone in yr 8. then again, right now i'm interested in someone who is 21 going on 22 in dec. it feels right - i don't see it as 'wrong'. but who knows, maybe in another 4 yrs i will go "whoaa soo wrong!". or maybe marvel at how being 4 yrs older than last time makes the gap seem so less significant. its a live and learn thing.Originally posted by glycerine
okay, what you have to consider, is... what a 15/16 or even 18 year old THINKS they want... is very often something they will look back on and cringe in their more adult years. when i was 13/14 i thought it was all good that my boyfriend was 18/19 (for the record, i lied about my age until about a year into the relationship, so you can't really blame him) blah blah because although i was young i was oh-so mature and we really had a connection blah blah fucking blah. now, even 3 years later, i realise how stupid i was, how not ready for a relationship of that calibre, specifically with someone with that much more life experience than me. even up until february of this yr i was going out with someone 5 years older, and it's only in hindsight that i realise how much more comfortable and relaxed i am now that i can act my age, not having to constantly worry that he or his friends see me as immature. there are choices, yes, and while as a teenager you're capable of making these choices to a certain extent, more likely than not, you will look back on these choices in even 5 years time and say "what the fuck was i thinking". and that's truly what i believe will happen with any 16-18 y/o "in love" with a 55 y/o.
incidentally, i think he must have severe emotional deficencies, if he can only relate to an 18 year old on a romantic level.
You just havent met the right teachers.Originally posted by kochou
ugh crushes on teachers are just wrong, unless it's your tutor or something. primary school kids having crushes on their teachers are even more wrong uk
snapper, you sound like a much more interesting teacher than most of mine (no this is not a suck up, its an observation from your posts )Originally posted by snapperhead
whats the difference between a teacher and a tutor??
*looks at CM*
besides, Im damn sexy.........just ask Mrs Snapperhead!
wheeeeeee the lithium has just kicked in!
Hes becoming a teacher I think... Ie after he does his PhD.Originally posted by snapperhead
whats the difference between a teacher and a tutor??
*looks at CM*
Why thankyou ma'am!!!Originally posted by Sarah168
snapper, you sound like a much more interesting teacher than most of mine (no this is not a suck up, its an observation from your posts )
Originally posted by Xayma
Hes becoming a teacher I think... Ie after he does his PhD.
teachers are forbiddon territory, its drummed into us from early on that its just plain wrong to like teachers.Originally posted by snapperhead
whats the difference between a teacher and a tutor??
*looks at CM*
really? so after i turned 18 and was still at school, i coulda shagged my teachers?Originally posted by snapperhead
only if ya under 18!!!
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it isnt illegal to just "cuddle"!!
LOL
doh... there goes any plans of having children!!
LOL
hang on, that doesnt sound right....
LOL