It's become pretty obvious that you girls have no idea what it feels like. The feeling is confusing, and guys aren't really good at dealing with feelings. Basically stop giving advice that starts with "I don't get it, but this is what you should do..." You're no different to Shadow.
I'm going through something similar, but much more complicated and progressed. In fact, I'm starting to think that my advice/experience might not be that relevant to the OP. I might make a post tomorrow giving you an insight into the psychosis of my emotions, but I'll have a think about whether to expose myself like that. There's a whole lot of shit going on which I may be confusing with this.