what's he hiding? (1 Viewer)

[flipsyde]

This is kinda a long story, so please bear with me I really need your help.

For the people who were at the meet, you may have spotted me with my bf.
Anyway for a while we were having a lot of trouble within our relationship, just arguing etc etc. It got to the point where I said to him "I don't have anymore energy to put into this relationship, I can't try to make it work anymore" He'd been being a real jerk of late and even his parents commented. But he vowed to change, and did

We went away camping with his family about 2 weeks ago and I was talking to him about how he ignores me when hes around his friends (his friends went camping to). I mean I understood that he couldnt spend 24/7 with me, thats totally cool. But then he called me 'clingy' and said it turns him away. I spoke to someone about it and they disagreed, considering I got little attention from him.

For the past 2 months its been going really really well, or so I thought. Last nigth was even fun as and I'm so glad he actually socialised with my friends rather than his usual sitting in a corner on his own.

I was in lengys room and rohan (bf) and I were sharing the sofa, which wasn't very comfortable and we didn't get much sleep at all.

When we were leaving I could see that something wasnt right so I asked him "what's wrong?'. He replied "Im thinking". But he still looked really worried and so I was like "come on, tell me I can see that youre upset, is it something really bad...to do with us?"(I aske3d this cos last time he acted like this he was hiding something from me, that turned out not to be as bad as he thought itd be).

He didnt say no to that but he didnt say yes he said "Im thinking before I decide to say something" I reassured him that all he has to do is be honest with me and he can tell me anything (we've been through a lot). He said I know, then I kissed his cheeck and he kissed me and he drove me home....

I don't understand. Is he mad at me? is there something he could be hiding?
this is driving me crazy, Im confused. Help?

 

[lengy]

Could be anything. =\

 

[tlodg]

maybe you should visit the "psychic" forum

 

[tlodg]

A wild guess is that he might have a problem of his own (not directly related to you) and doesn't feel like telling you about it.

Did you cry a lot (in his presence)? That may mislead one into thinking that you're clingier (is that a word?!) than you actually are.

 

[Frigid]

reading too much into it methinks...

 

[lengy]

He has your babies and doesn't know if he's ready to raise one with you yet etc.

 

[flipsyde]

He has your babies and doesn't know if he's ready to raise one with you yet etc.

wtf? lol

my babies?....when did that happen?...oh god how long was I drunk for? haha

 

[Cykologi_gal]

I've had such an eerily similar experience with my first b.f. when he suddenly wanted to lay back and not have PDA after just 3 months. It almost tore our relationship right then and there 'cos I wanted affection. It'd been such wrong timing 'cos his goal was just to settle down for the long-term and I started being clingy then.

Well, you can't do anything until he has thought before he decides to say something, like you said. It's most likely to be something to do with you as a couple, like, I think it's technically personal to him, yet because you're together, he considers that it's to do with you-s, which might affect you as well i.e. as a couple. Get it?! Most likely he's not mad at you, just confused and trying to find the right words, probably. He's a cool-headed guy then!

Prepare yourself though, this could be bad. The Honeymoon might be over.

I'm Cyk. but I'm not Cykic, so I can't really get into your mind when it is unclear with you at the moment. Just have a bit of patience, okay? It would always work out in the end, if it doesn't work out, it's not the end. PM me if you have more probs. All the best!

 

[wuddie]

ahahaha this is actually funny

mate if your bf doesnt trust you enough to tell you what it is, why bother with him anymore?

just ditch

 

[Not-That-Bright]

He's bought an engagement ring and is thinking about asking you to marry him - Congratulations.




P.S. I ruined his surprise, lol.

 

[Serius]

he might have the shits cause he was trying to sleep[work or something you said? meh i forget] and we were a bit noisy until we went on the balcony.

He might not have taken the threesome jokes in jest

Maybe he didnt have a good time lastnight, and blames you for dragging him along to something where he knows no1 [but he looked like he was having a good time...]

Whatever it is, probably something minor, just like reassure him or something and everything will be fine

 

[Collin]

He was thinking about some other chick's tits at the meat but couldn't find the heart to tell you.


Btw Rohan.. nice name.

 

[angelduck]

I've had such an eerily similar experience with my first b.f. when he suddenly wanted to lay back and not have PDA after just 3 months. It almost tore our relationship right then and there 'cos I wanted affection. It'd been such wrong timing 'cos his goal was just to settle down for the long-term and I started being clingy then.

Well, you can't do anything until he has thought before he decides to say something, like you said. It's most likely to be something to do with you as a couple, like, I think it's technically personal to him, yet because you're together, he considers that it's to do with you-s, which might affect you as well i.e. as a couple. Get it?! Most likely he's not mad at you, just confused and trying to find the right words, probably. He's a cool-headed guy then!

Prepare yourself though, this could be bad. The Honeymoon might be over.

I'm Cyk. but I'm not Cykic, so I can't really get into your mind when it is unclear with you at the moment. Just have a bit of patience, okay? It would always work out in the end, if it doesn't work out, it's not the end. PM me if you have more probs. All the best!

Dude, she wants advice, not knowledge of your own crappy experiences that really have nothing to do with it. You could have simplified ur entire post into "maybe he doesnt like PDA" - the rest of it had absolutely no point in reference to her question. Basically - i dont want to hear about how ur boyfriend changed ur mind about sex before marriage, then 'screwed you over' because he didnt want PDA (which, btw, isnt cool AT all - thats what privacy is for, the whole world doesnt want to see u exchange saliva)

 

[azzie]

The best advice I could give is distance yourself from this guy. If you really like him, keep up the relationship and see how it goes. But try not and get deeply involved with him until the relationship stabilises out a bit more, otherwise this could fuck you around.

He seems like a moody guy who think's it's nice to be in a relationship, but isn't mature enough to maintain a serious relationship.

 

[ur_inner_child]

Why not be patient and wait for a reply...?

Just doesn't seem at all that worrying. Don't work yourself up about it as of yet.

 

[azzie]

Well yes of course don't work yourself up, but it seems she's really into him and he's not really into her.
I'd say be careful and protect yourself by backing off a bit. See how he reacts, what he does. It could be an indicator.
Then settle down in the relationship when you're sure of him.

 

[alby]

for now, i'm with jarad....i'm thinking he was just really tired
*hugs* he seems really important to you


and col...they would be my tits

 

[flipsyde]

He was thinking about some other chick's tits at the meat but couldn't find the heart to tell you.


Btw Rohan.. nice name.

bahaha. that actually wouldnt bother me, he knows that! (esp if they were Mandas tits)Also serius, he meakes threesome jokes all the time so it wouldnt have been that. But thanks anyway


As for PDA, he doesnt mind as long as its not kissing. I understand that, its cool ya. Im not big on PDA either. I dont mind hugging or rubbing leg etc but yeah

 

[Collin]

and col...they would be my tits

 

[Collin]

bahaha. that actually wouldnt bother me, he knows that! (esp if they were Mandas tits)

So (according to him), you're clingy... but you're not really protective? I thought girls would care when their bfs stare at other girl's BOOBEHS!

People stare at alby's cuz she has awesome chocolate milk.